It is said that a monkey will reach into a jar to grab fruit and becomes trapped by his own clenched fist when he stubbornly refuses to let go.
In his quest for the prize, the monkey trades freedom for frustration.
The moral is that sometimes we are so focused on what’s in the jar we miss out on bigger rewards.
I’ve played the primate more times than I’d like to admit.
For several months, a friend and I have been working on a book I feel will benefit many families. It is the culmination of years of experience and provides a new philosophy regarding traveling with children.
But it is much more than a travel book: not only can it help improve relationships between parents and children, but it has the potential to help families build bridges cross-culturally. I believe in the project with every fiber of my being.
But somewhere during the process, things got complicated.
I became stressed, and the harder I held onto the project, the more anxious I became.
The project I loved became my own monkey trap.
So, I let go.
I let go of fear and worry about the project’s future and simply went on living, running, and writing.
This week I was informed that not only was the project back on, but my prior concerns had completely vaporized.
Jenn and I can write, publish, and market the book how we want.
The prize fell freely into our hands.
I had no idea two years ago how similar the journey through life is to long distance running.
You see, when a runner is anxious or stressed, muscles tighten, endurance crumbles, and pace slackens. It can even come to a point where the harder you try, the worse you perform. The best remedy for a runner in that situation is to relax, release the anxiety, and simply run.
Whether you are running, writing, or walking the unique path of your life, if you find yourself frustrated or fraught with stress, it is best to look down and see what exactly you’re holding onto.
Anything you grasp too tightly can become a monkey trap.
Miles: I fell short of last week’s goal, but this week I’m back in the groove. It’s funny how easy it is to ignore running when you haven’t registered for a marathon.
Weather: Gray, clouds, cold, gray, clouds, cold…I want fake spring back!
Wildlife: 4 crazy kids with cabin fever. Lots of little blue and yellow birds. Unfortunately, I’ve been hearing lots of gunfire outside and haven’t seen my deer all week:(